This is a wonderful time of year but don't let It become too stressful and overwhelming.
Sometimes, stress comes from not knowing what gift to get someone. Whether it's for a family member, a friend, someone at the office, or a hostess gift, we can place a lot of pressure on ourselves to get the perfect gift. Some of our thoughts may run like this - I like the gift but will they like it? Is it appropriate? Tasteful? Unique? Memorable? Clever? Affordable?
Gift giving is a kind of communication. By giving a gift, you are letting someone know that you are thinking of them, that you care. So, that what you select may reflect on you.
A few times I was more than a little nervous opening a gift from a particular gift-giver. Often, the gift was better left unopened. The lovely wrapping and over-sized bow, guarding the mystery of what was inside.
Once I opened it, the mystery was over. There I was, facing the reality.
A surprise is one thing. A shock is another.
Yes, a gift says you were thinking of them. But, in this case, what were they thinking? Maybe this was really meant for someone else.
Now is the time to employ your training in social etiquette and dust off those old-school manners taught by your mother. If it so happens that you have not benefited from any education in the social graces, it is time to start learning!
Say "thank you", graciously. Make every effort to look and sound like you mean it. Even if you never knew a plastic sequin-studded backscratcher existed. Watch your facial expression - your face can give you away!
Console yourself with the fact that you do not have to keep it. The gift has done its work when it is given. It is perfectly acceptable to return it, donate it, throw it away (later), sell it, lose it, re-purpose it, whatever. Be VERY careful about re-gifting!!!
It can be very humbling to consider that someone might be having the same ideas about your gift! But do not stress about it. Do the best you can. Give with a happy heart and then..
Relax, have a cup of hot chocolate (go ahead and put Bailey's in it!), some homemade cookies and enjoy the season.
Remember the most universally accepted form of communication, crossing all cultural boundaries, withstanding the test of time, available at a second's notice, needing no translation, and costing nothing, is a smile.
Have a very Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year!
